The mind :
Naturally, we will always test our limits, be it to our parents, our siblings, our relatives, our friends, and everyone we come into contact with.
We were born into this world with limitations (and will always have).
As yound child, we were told not to do this and not to do that.
This builds a sense of curiosity and needness to do just the opposite. Like I said its naturally induced.
In order to reach near perfection, (nobody is perfect except for Nabi (pbuh)) this strict 'No' needs to be impart with specific, true and single reasoning so that, even when the child is grown up and has powers beyond what she or he had before, she or he would still not test their limits remembering the SAME reasoning that she or he was given before or she or he could still do it BUT with the knowledge of knowing what she or he is doing is wrong in her or his mind.
But, by the latter, they could be liable.
I told this to some of my friends, that what is the biggest problem with delinquent nowadays are their interests conflicting with the religious beliefs.
But before they develop any sense of interest to any kind of topics, they should be taught or shown the correct way to live. As I feel the only interest that is to be bourne ("come out from") from the right way will not be wrong.
For some that's too late. It will be difficult to give away your interest for the sake of your religion. Thus, for these people, slowly but gradually. How? Convert their interest. It cannot be strict because interest, interest is like love, love conquers all, it has to be complete love. Love to God. Interest keeps one happy. Living happy is by far the most important thing I feel in this material world. One wouldn't mind not being rich but being happy. One would hurt oneself so much for a long time in order to get happiness. I can't emphasize more than the need to be happy. She or He can go through a lot of suffering as long as she or he is generally happy. For those who can't and are not generally happy would have suicided or keep hurting themself or silently keeping quiet about it till that one day (BURST!)
Back to interest, it can be converted by saying that "Its wrong, its wrong, its wrong!" It has to be made clear. Slowly, encourage another topic of interest, even if it means to spend money or anything materialistic and should not coincide with another wrong doing. For I feel its the duty of those righteous to lead them to the correct path by introducing them to these new interests. For the wrong-doers (including me), they have to be mend slowly, for they have been left astray for quite sometime and like a friend of mine said, freedom is addictive. Although we are not taking their freedom, we make want to make full use of thier freedom for their own good. As for some, they would block their mind from being tried to be persuaded into the correct path, for these will not give the righteous (not me, or InsyaAllah me) any chance at all to change them for they feel they deserve what they have. For them, not impossible, but a very intricate life they have chose for themselves which could ruin themselves. For all the righteous they will keep trying and trying with pure hearts but they could only do that and ask for prayers to them (doa).
For I feel :
Those who close the the doors to those who intends to help for them (to purely help them) are worst of them all.
Analogy - A person who is sick do not wish to accept free medicine offered from a righteous person (from his own heart), and also do not wish to accept prayers given to him in order to be well, and also he, himself do not wish/intend to do anything about it (berikhtiar/berusaha) be it a prayer to God or finding he's own cure.
Thus, he will be "digging his own grave."
Alhamdulillah, I've not seen anyone as mentioned above. But I have seen those not wanting any help from anyone, and also not ikhtiar and usaha, but just leaving it to God. May God help them in one way or another, InsyaAllah.
I hope all this makes sense.
So much said in order to tame that mind of yours.
It is extremely crucial that you know between right and wrong.
(e.g. If you read from a book that by cutting yourself, it will work (take your mind of off things), you MUST know its wrong to do so. You need know its wrong even before you pick that piece of book up. Parents read and pass on to their children, not the other way round nor not know what they are reading. Please let's not point fingers to who bears responsibility, everyone plays a part)
I am matured.(In every sense of it) / I'm not matured. (This should be what they should ask before entering in to a prohibited site)
Instead of : "I am above 18 / I'm not above 18"
Because for all I know, all those who knows how to click the mouse and play neopets/club penguin/etc. are "all way above 18" Smiles.
Everything wrong and stupidity comes from within myself. I apologise if I hurt anyone in the process of helping everyone see a few things to light.
Please take care of your child, InsyaAllah.
May God help me when my time comes too. Amin.
P.S : "If you can't change me, and I can't change you = No one gets better"
"But if you change me, and I change you = Both gets better"
Assalamualaikum.
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